The Silent Epidemic: When We're All Home but Nobody's Really There

Last Tuesday, I watched a family of four at a restaurant. Mom scrolling. Dad typing. Two teenagers with earpods in, eyes glued to screens. Four people, one table, zero conversation. They stayed for an hour.

We've perfected the art of being alone together.

Here's what broke me: A CEO I know told me his daughter asked him, "Dad, do you love your phone more than me?" He laughed it off. She didn't ask again. She just stopped asking for his attention altogether.

The math is brutal:

The average person checks their phone 144 times daily. If you're awake 16 hours, that's every 6.5 minutes. We're present, but we're not there. We share space but not connection. We're in the same room, living in different worlds.

And here's the kicker…we think we're being productive. We think we're "just quickly checking something." But our kids? They're learning that notifications matter more than conversations. That emails are more urgent than eye contact. That love comes with a side of distraction.

I'm guilty too. I've responded to my son with "uh-huh" while staring at my laptop. I've asked my partner to repeat themselves three times because I wasn't listening. I've been physically present at dinner while mentally drafting tomorrow's presentation.

The silent epidemic isn't that we're using technology. It's that we're choosing connection to everyone else over connection to the people right in front of us.

But here's what gives me hope: This isn't inevitable. It's a choice.

What if we treated family time like board meetings sacred, scheduled, non-negotiable? What if we gave our loved ones the same undivided attention, we give our most important clients?

The families who thrive aren't the ones who eliminate technology. They're the ones who set boundaries around it. Phone-free dinners. No-device weekends. Eye contact before screen contact.

Your challenge this week: Pick one meal. Just one. No phones. No TV. No distractions. Sit together. Talk. Listen. Be uncomfortable with the silence until someone fills it with something real.

Because our kids won't remember the emails we answered or the posts we liked. They'll remember whether we looked up when they walked into the room. Whether we put the phone down when they wanted to talk. Whether we were truly there.

The Family Boardroom isn't about having perfect meetings. It's about showing up really showing up for the people who matter most.

What's one boundary you're setting this week to be more present with your family?

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